DEAL WITH YOUR ENEMY

“We think we are afraid of something outside ourselves, but what we are afraid is really inside ourselves.”

What will cross in your mind once someone ask you to describe what enemy means to you? well, let me guess, you’ll start mentioning someone who you think he/she hate you most or someone who you think tend to bring dozens difficulties, a troublemaker that you believe ruins your life.. am I right?

Besides, I am pretty much sure that you wont ever mention yourself; your fear, your anxiety as the source of the problem itself. We tend to put others on our top list as someone who should responsible on our unfortunate life. We even forget that life just give us two sided, good things and bad things even friends and enemies. Unfortunately, most of us easily jump into conclusion that someone who has different perspective from us is our enemies instead of talk to ourselves, why it bothering us? 

To be honest, your enemy is not others who surrounding you. Your enemy is you, yourself; your thought, your fear and your anxiety. Once you let one of those things grow within yourself, I have no doubt then you will start becoming a paranoid. You will see that people are not respect you and you start thinking that they will joking at you if they find that you are not that perfect as they thought. You start blaming your environment and it become harder for you to trust others even they really want to be your friends instead of your enemies.

Moreover, You’ll found that you live in hell;  you start thinking that no one care about you and seems that everyone happy if you get torture. In fact, mostly it happen not because they really hurt you, but it happen because you let it happen to you.

so, instead of blaming and fighting others for things that the might did not do, why don’t you start make a deal with your truly enemy, YOURSELF!your thought, your anxiety? ask yourself, what makes you feel anxiety? it must has reason and to find the answer, all you need is to be honest to yourself.

I promise you one thing, once you find it and let yourself deal with it.. I am sure that you wont live in hell.., yet, you’ll find that everyone  loves you..

C’est la vie!!

ps:

again, this article such of re-post. Previously, I posted this article on another blog site at January 17, 2014. So, don't be surprised if you find this article on different blog site :)